Party lottery?

Very short post.

E2 got invited to a party yesterday.

‘Mama, it’s on a Sunday’ she tells me. I haven’t looked at the invitation yet, but the reply trips off my tongue easily.

‘Sorry, you can’t go. We’ll be going to church.’

‘Okay mama’ she says, and wanders off.

A while later, I glance at the invitation, and I have to rub my eyes as I reread it.

There’s a note attached to it. It says all 17 members of her class have been invited, but the venue can only sit 12. So the first 12 to respond will get to go.

Seriously? How do you explain this to a child? Oh, I didn’t dial fast enough so you won’t get to go to the party?

The note did go on to say hopefully not all invited would attend or words to that effect, but I still don’t get it.

Maybe this is perfectly normal and acceptable, but me, I just don’t get it. 

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for stopping by Smile.

p.s Even if we had nowhere else to go on the day, I’d have declined the invitation. On principle. As it is, I’m not going to dignify it with a reply. Like my people say, we are not being suffered for partiesto that extent in our house. Iya party o je wa to yen ni ile wa. 

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When I'm not cooking or thinking about cooking, then I'm writing, or thinking about writing. I love misdirection....nothing is ever what it seems!
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11 Responses to Party lottery?

  1. Nutty Jay says:

    It is an uninviting invitation….meant to invite but will be glad if you decline the invitation

    • Joxy says:

      Na wah! And to think the invites were handed to the children themselves, so they are definitely aware there’s a party going on. How do you explain to a 6 year old that they did not make the cut? smh

  2. Toin says:

    Nutty J just spoke my mind. It was def not an invitation

  3. teeto says:

    it’s a lottery invitation

  4. livelytwist says:

    Hmmm… if you don’t have money or space for for 17 kids, invite only 12! Of course that raises other issues for those left behind! But the invite is very untasteful… Surely they can do better and come up with a solution without being so… so… so… cheap?

    This could have been a teachable moment for parent & child. Granted I don’t have all the details… The child may have dreamt of having a party at that venue, but the parent could have explained the greater value of inclusiveness & being cordial.

    I remember once when a girl had a party & invited the whole class except two. She told my son that they weren’t invited because she didn’t like them. I couldn’t believe her parent’s would indulge her in such pettiness!

    • Joxy says:

      In this instance, the child’s mum is actually very nice. So I guess she genuinely doesn’t see anything wrong in sending out that kind of note, which baffles me all the more. People just have different ways of reasoning I suppose. As for the scenario you mentioned. goes to show what sort of parents the girl has.

      • livelytwist says:

        🙂 she probably imagines everyone is as “nice” as her! Joxy don’t mind me jare. I hope she never reads your blog and sees how we have misinterpreted her “niceness”🙂

  5. Angel says:

    That is just plain rude! If you can only invite 12 people, invite the first 12 ask for RSVP by an early date if anyone drops out invite more people. Don’t go telling people first come first serve like they are all dying to attend the party. Better still get a bigger venue or only invite twelve! Lol I’m with you on this!

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